LC'ed again...
Met a nice guy randomly at a bar one night. We drank alot, danced, and made out. Unfortunately, I was off to my vacation the next day, but we traded numbers anyway and I called him when I returned in 5 days. We talked wonderfully on the phone, and he asked me to get together for drinks at a bar later that week. We met up, kissed, held hands, and chatted happily. I asked him if he'd like to get together that weekend (St. Patty's), and he said he'd message me Saturday night.
Before Saturday, he messaged me a few little sweet words, and I returned back. During the day of Saturday, he messages me "have I got my green lips yet" and I return back "did he have a flower for me"? No response. Hrm. Ok, maybe he's busy.
He does message me later that night "Buenos Noches", and I respond "Bonne Nuit". However, he never does make it clear whether he wants to get together. Ok, well he's probably with friends.
I call him the next day and leave a message that I'd like to see him. No return after two days. I wish he'd just let me know what happened so suddenly. Did he get another girl? Was I too available (or unavailable)? Just didn't see anything else for us?
No closure is the worst. I vow to be more direct and clear in future, if ever in a situation of turning someone else down. :(
Met a nice guy randomly at a bar one night. We drank alot, danced, and made out. Unfortunately, I was off to my vacation the next day, but we traded numbers anyway and I called him when I returned in 5 days. We talked wonderfully on the phone, and he asked me to get together for drinks at a bar later that week. We met up, kissed, held hands, and chatted happily. I asked him if he'd like to get together that weekend (St. Patty's), and he said he'd message me Saturday night.
Before Saturday, he messaged me a few little sweet words, and I returned back. During the day of Saturday, he messages me "have I got my green lips yet" and I return back "did he have a flower for me"? No response. Hrm. Ok, maybe he's busy.
He does message me later that night "Buenos Noches", and I respond "Bonne Nuit". However, he never does make it clear whether he wants to get together. Ok, well he's probably with friends.
I call him the next day and leave a message that I'd like to see him. No return after two days. I wish he'd just let me know what happened so suddenly. Did he get another girl? Was I too available (or unavailable)? Just didn't see anything else for us?
No closure is the worst. I vow to be more direct and clear in future, if ever in a situation of turning someone else down. :(
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Re: confused and saddened (no closure)
Wed, March 19, 2008 - 9:06 AMthis seems more like a situation where someone isn't on the same time line as you are. And has a different sense of relationship momentum. I wouldn't rule him out, but unfortunately expecting people to respond in the time you want them to, will always lead to disappointment.
I am sorry you are sad, I know how that feels.
(((hugs)))
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Re: confused and saddened (no closure)
Wed, March 19, 2008 - 9:07 AMHeather I dont want to invalidate your feelings or anything but I wouldnt sweat it yet. Sometimes things get mixed up espeacialy in the begining. I hope it works out for ya :) -
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Re: confused and saddened (no closure)
Wed, March 19, 2008 - 9:09 AMjinx! Well nearly jinx.
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Re: confused and saddened (no closure)
Wed, March 19, 2008 - 9:20 AMIf I may....
If this dude really wanted to hang out with you on Saturday, then he should have said so and planned for it before Friday. Leaving someone waiting till the very last minute is uncool. I wouldn't do that to me friends, much less a woman I was digging. If it were me, I wouldn't have accepted that. If he calls ya back and has a truly great reason why he didn't do more, then have at. Otherwise, he's just fluttering about and took what he wanted and left it at that. You deserve much more, chile!!!! -
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Re: confused and saddened (no closure)
Wed, March 19, 2008 - 9:22 AMoh snap.
That is an excellent point Hades. -
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Re: confused and saddened (no closure)
Wed, March 19, 2008 - 9:24 AMAye. Oh, and it's "Buenas Noches." I'm docking this dude even more for butchering me language. :D
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Re: confused and saddened (no closure)
Wed, March 19, 2008 - 1:13 PMthanks Hades for the kind words!! you rule!!! :)
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